You need a little background to start. And I want to preface all of this by saying judge me not, as I do not judge others. I love my path. I feel proud and American and strong because of the independence I have exerted. That said...
When I was 34 and not married, I was scared I would meet someone and tell them I had to have babies right away. So instead I used a donor and got myself pregnant (so to speak). I wanted to marry for love, not for children. I knew parenting was a 24 hour occupation. I was more experienced with children than most. I guess I knew it would be hard for a lot of reasons, but I never thought it was the wrong thing to do. I had my son Felix in 2005. Then in 2006 I got pregnant again the same way.
When I was 6 months pregnant and mother to a 15 month old toddler, I was living in a condo in a beautiful coastal town in Maine. I needed to have some carpentry work done, so I called a friend for a recommendation. He told me about this great guy. The doorbell rang and this gorgeous guy stood there. There was electricity between us from day one. I could barely look him in the eye some days because I had so much going on in my life and I needed to focus on being a mother.
He worked in my house for two months. We became friends. He had been married before and had 19 and 20 year old children. We talked about life a lot and how, for me, making choices to do what was right for me came easily. I have the ability to never think about what other people think of me. He thought this was amazing. He worries about what EVERYONE thinks.
Anyway, I had my baby girl, Annie, in June. He saw her at like 5 days old and was darling with her. We kept being friends. We'd have Hummus and Tabbouli and chat about life and places we want to see. Again, we were JUST friends. Then, one day, out of the blue, I got a text from him saying that he had fallen in love with me and didn't know what to do with his feelings. I was okay with his feelings. Flattered really.
We started dating in December, got engaged the following September, got married in June 2009. He adopted both of my children in July 2009. The rest, as they say, is history.
And now, it is all out there.